Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue: How to Raise Your Kids Free of Gender Stereotypes
Christia Spears Brown
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A guide that helps parents focus on their children's unique strengths and inclinations rather than on gendered stereotypes to more effectively bring out the best in their individual children, for parents of infants to middle schoolers.
Reliance on Gendered Stereotypes Negatively Impacts Kids
Studies on gender and child development show that, on average, parents talk less to baby boys and are less likely to use numbers when speaking to little girls. Without meaning to, we constantly color-code children, segregating them by gender based on their presumed interests. Our social dependence on these norms has far-reaching effects, such as leading girls to dislike math or increasing aggression in boys.
In this practical guide, developmental psychologist (and mother of two) Christia Spears Brown uses science-based research to show how over-dependence on gender can limit kids, making it harder for them to develop into unique individuals. With a humorous, fresh, and accessible perspective, Parenting Beyond Pink & Blue addresses all the issues that contemporary parents should consider—from gender-segregated birthday parties and schools to sports, sexualization, and emotional intelligence. This guide empowers parents to help kids break out of pink and blue boxes to become their authentic selves.
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What are the two tricks parents use to help their child learn a language (tricks they are probably not even aware they are using)? First, they talk to their babies in a special voice designed to capture the child’s attention. This is sometimes called motherese. It is that high-pitched, simple, and slow speech that everyone seems to do instinctively when talking to babies. Second, parents label everything. I caught myself doing that with Grace all the time when she was a baby. She picked up a spoon, and I would say, “That’s your spoon.
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Ideas that need to be linked with one another (such as a picture and its label) should be presented side-by-side. That way, the brain can process them at the exact same time. Also, explanations of events should be given when the event is depicted rather than many minutes, hours, or days later. 2. Whenever a new concept is first introduced, kids should first visualize a picture of the concept. They should then be given a hands-on opportunity to concretely manipulate the new concept or observe how it functions over time.
There is a rivalry between cops and firefighters in many cities (popular T-shirts proclaim, “If you can’t take the heat, become a cop” or “If you can’t walk the beat, become a firefighter”). Or ask Twilight fans whether they are Team Edward or Team Jacob. The groups we like to latch on to can be more meaningful than who shoots a ball best. Ask Republicans what they think of Democrats and vice versa. The hatred of the “other” party and the strong partisanship of modern politics made the 112th Congress the least productive Congress since World War II.